13) If possible, one should fulfill the mitzvah of the ‘Melave Malka’ (lit. escorting the Queen) meal with bread and a hot dish. One should set the table appropriately in honor of the departure of Shabbos. One who cannot eat bread should at least eat cake or fruit. (Footnote 41: If one finds it impossible to eat at all, tea or coffee suffices.)
14) Even if one already recited Havdalah, he may repeat it for children (i.e. boys – see below) who have reached the age of ‘chinuch’ (i.e. mitzvah training – usually around 6-7 years old), so that they may fulfill their obligation. One may certainly repeat Havdalah for an adult who has not yet fulfilled it, if that person cannot recite it for himself. If that person is able, he must recite it himself, rather than having someone else repeat it for his sake alone (Ed: or listen to someone else who is making it for the first time.) When repeating Havdalah for the sake of others, upon reaching the bracha ‘borei minei besamim’ over the spices, one must smell them himself, so that the bracha not be in vain. (Note: Being that this is one of the ‘birchos hanehenin’ – brachos over the partaking of pleasure – one must also get that pleasure if he is to enable someone else to be ‘yotze’ as well.) As a woman’s obligation to hear Havdalah is debated (i.e. on one hand, it is comparable to Kiddush, in which they are obligated; and on the other, it is a time-bound positive mitzvah), it is preferable: 1) that women not make Havdalah on their own, but rather be ‘yotze’ by hearing it from men; and 2) that a man who has already been ‘yotze’ Havdalah for himself not repeat it solely for women.
15) If one forgot, or was genuinely unable (i.e. not purposefully), to recite Havdalah on Motzei Shabbos, he may do so until the end of Tuesday. In that case, however, only the bracha over the wine and the long bracha, beginning with ‘Baruch… Hamavdil bein Kodesh l’chol…’ should be recited – not the ones over the ‘besamim’ or the candle. Once Tuesday has past, Havdalah may no longer be recited. Why Tuesday? Because the first three days of the week are called “the days after Shabbos” and are considered the end of the Shabbos; whereas, the last three days are called “the days before the coming of Shabbos” and have no relationship to the Shabbos past!